Using Loving Kindness with Road Rage

Sending out Loving Kindness while driving……

Today I was driving and encountered some hostility on the road, imagine that……how surprising. (Welcome to L.A.)

I started feeling anger arise and I immediately said to myself.  “This is what anger feels like”  Instead of allowing it to overflow and take over I decided to follow a teachers advice which was…

“Loving Kindness is always a good response, you can never go wrong with sending Loving Kindness”

So I sent Loving Kindness (LK) to myself and then I sent out LK to all the drivers that I encountered on my journey.  Instead of seeing someone with eyes of judgement I saw and sent them LK.  I then realized a few things.

First of all, one cannot send Loving Kindness without it putting a smile on their face.  Try it.  I found myself getting in such a good mood just by the smile that was generated by a simple gesture that took a second to do.

Secondly, I noticed that when I looked at someone without mindfulness, I usually judge and label them. I put them in a box.  i.e. Seeing a homeless person, I would involuntarily label and put them in a box called “Homeless person” and add all of society’s stereotypical labels as well.  I wanted to switch it up abit to see if from a different perspective.  Curiosity took over.

Thirdly, I realized that when I sent someone LK I forgot to judge them.  The proverbial “Ah Ha” moment occurred.  I noticed that I didn’t have enough time to do both.  Once I sent them LK, I moved on to other things and judgement wasn’t one of them.  So it looks like I accidentally changed LK for judgement.  Hmmm, Maybe my studying is finally starting to take hold.

So I started my new practice of sending Loving Kindness to everyone as a default greeting, silently.  I actually learned this a while ago by reading works by Chade Meng-Tan of Google fame.  I guess I just needed a reminder.

Give it a try.  I challenge you to try it next time you walk into a crowded room.  Just look at each individual and say to yourself,  “I wish for you to be happy”  Notice if the energy of the room changes.  Since only you know you are doing it, it’s extremely safe and you won’t get embarrassed.

Remember….It’s Only Stuff

Letters of the Dragon

Letters of the Dragon

I’ve been on a journey to read as much about Mindfulness as I can as I enter a phase of re-inventing myself, as I pursue one of my passions to become a Mindfulness teacher.  I just finished reading a book called “Letters of the Dragon”  by Bruce Lee.  These are personal letters that were written by Bruce and has insights to his inner thinking.  I found it extremely interesting and enlightening as I’m able to see the personal side of an amazing man.

“Nothing in the world is more yielding and softer than water; yet it penetrates the hardest.  Insubstantial, it enters where no room is.  It is so fine that it is impossible to grasp a handful of it; strike it, yet it does not suffer hurt; stab it, and it is not wounded. – Bruce Lee

If you think you are beaten, you are.

If you think you dare not, you don’t.

If you like to win but think you can’t

It is almost certain you won’t

If you think you will lose, you are lost.

For out of the world we find success BEGINS with a fellow’s WILL…..

It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you’re outclassed, you are.

You’ve got to think high to rise.

You’ve got to be sure of yourself before

You can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go to

The stronger or faster man.

But sooner or later the man

Who wins is the man


Weekly Quote

“A true spiritual teacher does not have anything to teach in the conventional sense of the word, does not have anything to give or add to you, such as new information, beliefs, or rules of conduct. The only function of such a teacher is to help you remove that which separates you from the truth of who you already are and what you already know in the depth of your being” – Eckhart Tolle

Race relations

There are two races of men in this world. The “race” of the decent man and the “race” of the indecent man. Both are found everywhere; they penetrate into all groups of society. – Viktor Frankl

Why meditate in the morning?

Why meditate in the morning?

To clear the head and get a fresh start, to be more mindful throughout the day and to make better choices as a result.

That’s why…